FRESHLY PICKED Moccasins Giveaway!

Thank you, thank you for all of the kind comments on yesterday's post. I feel like I got so many hugs of solidarity, and those are really good hugs to get. Thank you.

Talking about socks or shoes that stay on is the parent version of talking about the weather. There is a lot of forced small talk at social hot spots like the playground because babies and toddlers don't exactly get that their shy, introverted mom would prefer that they somehow not cause her to surpass her daily limit of meeting new people (oh the horror, Katrina ... ). 

Let's say it were just Chris and I at a hypothetical summer picnic work function of his, and he went to wash his hands after eating food that had the slightest bit of grease in its contents as he always must do. I would be awkwardly sitting by a person I'd never met who seems nice. Eventually the silence would be awkward enough that even I couldn't handle it so this would happen: 

Me: This is a great picnic. 
Nice Stranger: Oh it is. The food is great. 
Me: Thank goodness the sun is out. The weather can be so finicky.

Now let's say I'm at the playground with Ryan and Conor. Conor is sitting on my hip with my hair in his fists, and Ryan is perched at the top of the slide enjoying the view and creating quite the traffic jam during the park rush hour. All the parents are waiting for their kids to whoosh! down the slide, and we are waiting and waiting and exchanging ages of our kids and the like until we get to ...

Nice Stranger: Oh those are the cutest socks.
Me: Oh thanks. The best part is that they stay on! 

Socks and shoes that stay on ... the highly sought after holy grail of parents to wee ones. 

Well, I'm turning into a sort of Indiana Jones because I have found shoes that will stay on little feet. Freshly Picked kindly sent Conor some moccasins for his chubby feet last week, and I love them. I'm more of a barefoot baby kind of mom, but summer is playing hide-and-seek with us. The socks that stayed on Ryan so well are losing their magic, and ne'er an outing goes by without someone shouting, "Ma'am! Is this your baby's sock?" These moccasins are a wonderful solution to keep his little piggies warm when the sun is behind the clouds, yet they are still light on his feet when the sun is blazing.

Each moccasin is hand made with excellent craftsmanship out of incredibly soft, durable leather, and I do really appreciate that Conor will be able to still feel his feet on the ground rather than having a thick, chunky sole. I chose the Weathered Brown color since we attempt to be boringly minimal, and I thought this leather would be the most versatile with the clothes that we have. So far, so good, and if it doesn't match ... he's probably going to drool all over the outfit anyway. These moccs have been baptized by drool already, and they are still in tip top shape. 

I do also want to say that I'm a sucker for a good business story, and I have been telling Chris about Susan's story since I first read about it a couple years ago. It is a great entrepreneur story. 

I'm so excited to have these moccasins for Conor even though now I will have to expand my parenting small talk past socks that stay on ;)

Freshly Picked is generously giving away one pair of moccasins to one of my blog readers! Would you like some for your son or daughter? Or whatever baby you have in your life? To enter, please visit their shop and then come back and leave a blog comment stating what color of moccasins you would like to choose. There are thirty-six colors! If I were to get another pair, I would have to go with the Prince George because I love that blue, and I love the royal family. 

So what color would you choose? And are you a fan of forced introductions via children? Or am I the only introvert at the park? 
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Snail Pace for All

Tuesday was day two of me being the only adult at home with the boys. BoySsssss. Still love that plural s. For half of the day, Ryan wore boots on the wrong feet ... boots that I put on him. Well, I've always had problems telling my left from my right. 

We were going to go to story time, and I was very proud of myself for everyone being dressed and ready to go at the right time for us to walk there and make it in time.  We went to get the stroller in the garage, but there was no stroller. Oops! I had put the stroller in the car, and Chris had taken the car to work. Ever so confident from my self-esteem boosting ability to have everyone dressed, I decided that we would still walk to story time. Ha!

Have you ever tried to walk anywhere with a toddler with a short amount of time on the clock? It took me until the fifth time in two sidewalk blocks that we stopped to pick up a leaf with his mittened hands to close the book on making it to story time. He can stand while everyone else sits next week.

The kindest lady that I had just briefly met at a dinner pulled over to give me an umbrella since it was slightly drizzling, and she didn't know if it was going to rain hard soon. South Bend is super nice.

With an hour until we would meet Chris at the Basilica, we just walked with no purpose at all except to go at a toddler pace, as snail pace of a pace it is. There were no hurry ups, no come ons. It was my favorite part of the day, and I'm pretty sure it was Ryan's, too. He was just as content to roam from one end of the sidewalk to the next in search of nonexistent 'corns (those grow on oak trees not maple trees, Sweetie), to climb stairs leading to nowhere and to lift his beanie back that was not blocking his view at all so he could tip his head back, furrow his brow and search for curls (squirrels) in the tree. 

It really is nice to know among the daily napocalypses and periodic aggressive adjusting to being a sibling that makes me pull out my hair (and it really can't afford to be pulled on account of the pending postpartum hair loss ...), Ryan is happy to go at a snail pace. He isn't telling me to hurry up and be a perfect mom. Conor certainly isn't.  They just want me to be their mom. I don't have to become a wonder mom to two over night. 

But I do have to be able to carry two at a time after ten blocks.

How was Conor dealing with the toddler pace? Just fine, indeed. 

We're Going to the (Log) Chapel and We're Gonna Get Baptized

Last Saturday, Conor was baptized in the Log Chapel on campus. Thankfully, the sacrament occurred even though I discovered that the key to the chapel was no longer in my purse pocket two hours before the scheduled time. An 'F' for me! St. Anthony helped my sister find it in our car, and all was fine and dandy until Conor told Chris that he didn't like his shirt choice via spit up. Despite all of that, we made it to the chapel.

Now we have a child of God. As Father baptized him, I realized that it was comforting to me as a mother who is merely a child of God herself, that no matter what, there is a love that is greater than my own for my children embracing them for all of eternity. 

It was a great day. Chris put it perfectly when Father asked him to speak after the baptism. 

There is nothing more wonderful than welcoming a child into your family. 

Kissing the newly baptized. Ryan chanted, "Bottom! Bottom! Bottom!" which means Baptism in case you didn't know.

Uncle Johnny was very, very interested.

We love Conor's godparents! My brother flew in from North Carolina, and Chris' sister flew in from Berkeley.

Thank you to Chris' family and my family who worked hard to create a feast for us to celebrate Conor's big day!

Brothers, Uncles, Nephews, Non-sharers

I told my mother-in-law that all I wanted this week while she is here taking care of us was for Ryan to learn how to share. Ha. 

Ha. Ha. Ha.

Sadly, I seriously thought it could happen. Always an optimist, I guess.

Well! At least I learned something about photographing this group of boys who make you scratch your head when you try and figure out how they are related; the bribing power of tootsie rolls is strong:

Wee! Wee! Wee! All the way to stay-at-home mom-dom

I think I'll keep my day job.

Yesterday my mother-in-law insisted on taking Ryan with her to a home decor store quite a bit away. You think, "How nice! You get a little break from crazy toddler land. She is brave to take a toddler there." Well, the more appropriate response is, "Sainthood!" because she also took her four year old and eleven month old. She is truly selfless, and she already has two miracles under her belt - one being the fact that Ryan sat in the cart the whole time and two being that nothing broke in the store! Sainthood.

Anyway, once St. Jill and company were off to the land of breakables and I got over my get-a-grip-he's-leaving-for-half-a-day tearing up as I waved bye to Ryan, my mama-mind hopped from one idea to the next of how I should spend my time. I only have a newborn! This little mama cried free! free! free! all the way home.

(Well you know, as free as a newborn lets you be ... which could mean not at all. But still. Work with me here).

As much as I love looking at newborn photos like the beautiful ones that Marjorie creates, they aren't really in the budget. With those not an option, a toddler-free afternoon, orders to not clean, and with a few pumpkins and gourds lying around, I decided to take a click at it for my October baby.

Out came the quilt from Ryan's bed to mask the massive bachelor pad/toddler's dream bean bag in our living room. On came the eight hours of white noise available on YouTube and up went the volume. Out came the sharpie thanks to Olivia for some Pinspiration.

With a prayer and a shhhh and all my fingers crossed, I placed Conor on my laughable set up and pulled out my trusty DSLR camera phone.

What do you think? Potential for an Awkward Baby Photo list ten years down the road? 

Moving Ryan while he is asleep and keeping him asleep is one of my mom skills that I am most proud of. Katrina Harrington, nap mover, at your service. Apparently this knack does not include newborns because Conor woke up. 

He took one look at my photo stage and must have decided he needed to add a fountain. Boys. 

Yes, I think I will keep my day job. 

Oh wait! That involves a lot of sterile fountains, as well.

Right. 

Luckily, it also includes this:

Welcome, smiles!

Yesterday's Babble

Yesterday, oh yesterday. 

It wasn't a terribly, no good, horrible day. It was actually a pretty darn good day of un-noteworthy normal. Which, in my blog world, means I have a lot of (not) cohesive notes to share. 
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We walked to story time and made it a bit early, but only after starting to get ready an hour beforehand. It only took one hour because Conor was nice on my first full day without help and slept in until ten. Only one is a success? Starting with my bar low. Nice and low. 
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Once we departed story time otherwise known as Ryan-stands-while-everyone-else-sits-time, we entered quite the fall wonderland. Colorful leaves, huge snowflakes and a pat on the back to my morning self who decided to dress everyone in many layers. 

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Let's talk about this photo. A God's view selfie, I guess we could call them. A mark of a blogger or at least a mark of an Instagrammer. Campus was pretty quiet when I did the whole raise my phone over my head and blindly tap, tap, tap on my phone in the hope that at least one photo captures the boys and their #nofilterneeded background and not an unfortunate shot of my chest or my uncombed hair. Even if campus weren't quiet, I'm already the weird young one with kids; will a little embarrassing interpretive dancing be detrimental to my not important image? No. But when I think of myself behind the insta-scene, it's an insta-chuckle.

My editor is probably going to say that that whole paragraph does not make sense at all. And he is probably (definitely) right. Nevertheless, who got that? Because you get blog hugs from me. A valid currency, no?
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Ryan got to try out his snowflake catcher for the first time this season. 
Video here. Conor wasn't interested as he just wanted his lunch-milk.
Ryan-catching-snowflakes from Katrina on Vimeo.

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I went to heat something in the microwave only to be greeted by a burnt scent and a not-so-sweet memory from the day before that graham crackers CAN burn in the microwave. 
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The sandman forgot to stop by at nap time. He is probably on vacation. I hope he gets sand in his swimsuit.

Stubborn and nap - defiant since 2012

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Hulu plus and Bob the Builder wasn't working on the TV. Four o'clock circles around, the brooms come out and the witching hour of the day begins.

A lot of sand. I hope he gets a lot of sand in his swimsuit.
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Ryan has created another opportunity to play peekaboo - between his legs during diaper changes. Now the soiled nature of those is offset by, "Peekaboo, Iseeyou!" I'll take it. 
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I had dinner prepped to be heated at five. 5:40 o'c'ock as Ryan says rolls around, and I remember that it is Tuesday. On Tuesdays, Chris has a meeting after work, but I could not remember if he gets home at 6 or 6:30. In case you didn't know, there are 777 or so minutes between 6 and 6:30 in stay-at-home mom time. And the number of minutes between 6:30 and 6:31? Don't even joke about it. Not funny. 

6:29 pm, the Harrington home

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It is funny that any poor behavior that occurs in the time between the expected time of arrival and the actual time of arrival absolutely must be blamed on the parent that isn't home. Am I right or am I right?
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But then, Chris came home, and all was right. Not just me. 

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What does the camel say? I don't know, but at bedtime when I sang that the new camel on Old MacDonald's farm had a spit here and a spit there, I sent Ryan into a peal of belly laughs. And another and another. It was one of those moments that was too good. I like that he thinks I'm funny when I don't even think that I am. 

So that was yesterday. I love you, yesterday, and I love this blog that I get to document you on.

Today we had a newborn who is, well, a newborn who wanted nothing else to be carried and a toddler with a fever who wanted nothing else than to be carried (not held, carried. And he requests that the piggy to his back-ride walk). Poor guy. Prayers that he gets better!

Blogging A Dead Horse.

Eeeek, another birth post.

Last one, I promise.

(Well, until I birth another babe, of course.)

(NOT pregnant. This disclaimer is probably a bit unnecessary considering Conor's age in weeks, buuuuut you can never be too unintended pregnancy announcement safe in the blog world, am I right?)

I cut Conor's birth story off right after I held him because, let's be honest, it was already too long. But I have been getting some questions about more of the nitty gritty stuff so I thought I would do one last birth post. Other than reading a couple books to prepare for Ryan's birth, my method of preparation was reading birth story after birth story after birth story ... you get the picture. In case there are any mamas-to-be out there that are curious, I want to pay it forward.

>>> I don't know the exact amount of time that I pushed because of all the contractions in between that I waited through, but the nurses said it was definitely under an hour from when I started until Conor was born.
>>> I only had very tiny tears so I did not need any stitches. Joooooy! My midwife said that pushing the head out slowly helped. With Ryan, I had a very minor tear that needed a couple of stitches. You can bet I asked for a local anesthetic.
>>> Having my baby in my arms did help keep my mind occupied during the stitches and examining, but I'm not going to lie - it still stung.
>>> With all of the commotion with Conor being a little sunny side up and his heart rate going down, the midwife ending up catching the baby, not the resident.
>>> While Chris was holding soon after he was born, I felt an urge to push. I did, and out came the placenta. Luckily it wasn't painful, but I do remember it being a little painful with Ryan (maybe because I tore more with him?). My midwife commented that the placenta was huge. A nice and roomy accommodation for Conor, I guess.
>>> I will forever, ever, ever try to give birth at 6:20 pm. Because you know, you so can tell your uterus when to evict the baby. But, really. Having Conor in the evening is what has made my recovery as easy as it has been. Ryan was born at 4:58 am so we started parenthood on zero hours of sleep with a prognosis of very little sleep to come thanks to Ryan's love affair with being awake (which has yet to fizzle). After Conor was born, I was full of adrenaline and love at first, but then when I was left with just love, I was able to sleep at 10pm so I was never thrown off a normal schedule. 6:20 pm is the Margaritaville of birth arrivals.
>>> The after birth contractions were worse than after Ryan. Oh my goodness.
>>> In the midst of every bathroom trip, I would deem Ryan an only child. Conor was deemed the youngest child forever. A few minutes to forget any bathroom business and a quick cuddle took those titles away.

All in all. It's over.

For now.

Because Conor won't be the youngest. I hope.

(Again, not pregnant! Mean it).

Whaddyathink

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7 Quick Takes

Linking up with my fellow Instagram stalker, Jen, for 7 Quick Takes! 

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1. One day young. I saw this très belle series of photographs this week, and j'adore, j'adore, j'adore them. The photographer documented mothers holding their one day old babies, and the exhausted thrilling love just seeps from the photos. They make me ache for that whirlwind and wrinkly day! 


2. Bodyguard. My days are (leisurely, thanks to my mom!) spent as a baby-bodyguard. In the midst of, "I kissed him!" proclamations, Ryan seems to think it is his responsibility to show Conor some good old brotherly roughhousing even though Conor is less than two weeks old.

What did I ever do to you, bro? All I do is eat and sleep and stare. 

3. Pucker up. I've had people ask me what lip product I wear, and I guess Ryan was curious about it, too. 

It's Revlon Just Bitten Lip Balm Stain in Smitten. 

4. The Center for Ethics and Culture is having its Fall Conference this weekend, and Chris and I are tossing the idea around to go to a talk or two with baby in tow. I am not a huge conference person (at all), but Chris is all about stimulating the mind one philosophical discussion at a time and I love events where babies in slings are welcome. We will see! 

5. Soft, thick sweaters? I seem to have donated and discarded all of my soft, cozy sweaters in my latest clothing purge a few months ago, and now that the temperature has dipped and our thermostat and the winter temperatures don't have an inverse relationship, I need some. Anyone have any they purchased lately that they love? Preferably thick cardigans or wraps that are nursing friendly? I would thrift store it up, but I don't think I will be doing my hit up three thrift stores in one day routine for a while. 

I'm kind of a child when it comes to itchy sweaters so I am all about the synthetic, but if you somehow have a wool sweater that is as soft as Conor's skin, I'm all ears. 

6. Hair Help Needed. In the year of 2000, I was very touched by the millenium or something, and my New Year's resolution was to wear a different hair style seven days of the week. What a great self-improvement goal, no? What can I say, my fifth and sixth grade self was a gem (just for clarification - that is supposed to be read with sarcasm). I curled my hair so often that one of my close friends thought my hair was naturally curly. Uh, no. 

Anyway, I peaked too early in the hair department and by the time I was a senior in high school when people normally care about their appearance, I pretty much never did anything noteworthy with my hair, save for dances. To this day, I pretty much never even brush my hair because I can't shake a line I read in a magazine in high school that Gisele, "doesn't own a hair brush." I should probably get over that. 

So. What is this babbling take about? Well, I think I am ready to start sticking my split ends back into the doing my hair regularly waters so if anyone has any easy hair styles for long hair, send them my way! Hair tutorials, Pinterest boards, whatever. Extra points for updos because the baby in my arms is constantly getting his nose tickled by my wannabe-but-never-gonna-be Rapunzel hair. 

7. And we will round it out with a baby photo.

Happy Weekend! 

Conor's Birth Story, Part II

 Part I

I was hit with a reeeeally hard contraction, and I was now alone. All through the pregnancy, I had been pretty nervous about going through labor again. For me, anticipating labor with the second baby was worse than with the first, I think because now that I had gone through it once, I knew how hard it was. Chris had to listen to months of variations of, "Do you think I can do it?" He always kindly reminded me to look at Ryan. 

However, now that I was alone, I had no confidence in my ability to get through what was about to come. I'm normally silent during contractions, but I started to whimper and mutter doubts like, "I can't!" I decided to get in the shower to see if I would be able to relax so I got mostly undressed before another contraction came. Once that one was over, I remembered that the shower was the opposite of relaxing while I was timing my contractions earlier, and I wasn't about to stop timing them now.

Three minutes apart. Two and a half minutes apart. Two minutes, twelve seconds apart. Closer and worse. I tried to breathe through the contractions, but by the time a few seconds had passed, my confidence would be gone, and I cried out. I kept listening for the sound of the garage door. Nothing. It takes less than ten minutes to get to Alexandra's so Chris should have been back. I started walk around our room during the contractions while trying to pray Hail Marys and Our Fathers. The baby felt so low that it was much more of a waddle than a walk.

Finally after thirty minutes, I called Chris. I was basically crying into the phone asking him where he was. He was one street over and about to be home. When he came into the house, he found me in the bedroom right as a contraction was reaching its peak. I went down to the floor whimpering, "I can't! I can't!" Chris now says that he thought the baby was going to come right then and there, ha.

Chris told me to get dressed right away and ran my bag up to the car. We had a similar short discussion to the one that occurred right before we left for the hospital with Ryan. I wanted to wear my boots and told Chris to grab them from the closet. I won last time, but this time Chris won. He still thought the baby was going to be born very soon and my moccasins were closer so that is what made it on my feet.

As we were about to go up the stairs to the garage, Chris casually mentioned, "I got you Chipotle!"

What.

I wasn't exactly kind nor did I express gratitude when I found out that he had stopped on the way home from dropping Ryan off while I was having contractions less than three minutes apart. Granted, he didn't know they were that close because they had been about four minutes apart when he left and the food was for me, not for him, but still. Still!

Maybe I should retire that see-through shirt ... 

The drive to the hospital started out horribly. I did not want to be sitting. I kept squirming through the contractions, which only made them worse. I commented that we were going to switch health insurances because the hospital we were going to now takes fifteen minutes to get to as opposed to the five minute drive to the other hospital. Chris called my dad to let them know that we were on the way to the hospital and was way too polite for his laboring wife's taste when my dad kept talking and a contraction was starting. "Just hang up!!" I commanded. Sorry, Dad!

After that horrible contraction was over, I proclaimed that I was going to get the epidural. (Chris doesn't remember this, he just said. Good thing I am the one writing this! Or would you prefer ... there were contractions, she pushed, the baby was born?) Then I told Chris to forget that I said that because I wouldn't be able to get one quick enough anyway.

He told me to try and relax through the next contraction. I was a ball of self-confidence and huffed and puffed and told him that I couldn't. The contraction began, and Chris talked me through it. He instructed me to relax my forehead, then jaw and all the way down to my toes. Breathe in and out. He reminded me that we were going to meet our baby soon. He kept talking softly until the contraction was over.

It worked.

I was so relaxed that I felt like I was in a trance and as the contraction subsided, I almost felt like I was asleep. I didn't say anything again until I told him to start the timer again. We repeated this until we got to the hospital, and oops ... we had no idea where the labor and delivery wing was. Chris parked as close as he could to the main entrance, and then we made our way to the door. I walked straight through the grass. I just wanted to be able to lay down as soon as possible. Chris helped me through a contraction outside the hospital and right in front of the reception desk, and I remember there were people walking by so I was extra conscious that I didn't scream out in pain or anything to scare women from having babies.

After all the tedious name, date of birth, yada yada yada collecting and a whole lot of me wishing they could just scan me and see that I needed to be in a delivery room stat, the receptionist led us to a row of backless padded benches to wait for a nurse to come get us. I promptly laid down and waited for the next contraction.

The next contraction was the best contraction of my life. It's true! Chris instructing me to relax, Chris whispered, "Think of the look Ryan gives you when he wakes up from a nap." I instantly remembered a couple days before when I was sitting at the computer, and I heard the door handle of his bedroom door jump and then the door swing open. His little pitter patter started and when he came round the table to see me at the computer, he shouted, "Mama!" and started running at me with his stout arms pumping and pumping. Once I imagined those little, enthusiastic arms and thought of another little one growing up and someday erasing my momentary dread that naptime was over with one little swing of his or her arm, I seemed to have all the power in the world to get through that contraction with minimal suffering. I replayed those little frames of time in my mind over and over until the contraction had departed.

It was a good thing that Chris had planted that moment in my head because the contractions started coming right on top of each other and were almost a minute and half long. The nurse came out with a wheelchair and started asking me questions like how long my contractions had been going. When she heard that it was my second baby and how close my contractions were, she pushed a little bit faster. When I muttered that I was 3.5 cm and 50% on Wednesday and then requested that we stop so I could sit through a contraction and tried to get out of the wheelchair, she apologized and said that we had to get upstairs now. I obeyed.

We made it to triage, they handed me a sample cup and a hospital gown and my complete disregard for who sees me while in labor began. I started to take off my pants before the door was even shut because I wanted to speed through everything since the contraction clock was a-ticking. I somehow managed a sample, but then a contraction started so I promptly laid down on the bed even though I still didn't have the hospital gown on. The nurse came in, strapped a heart rate monitor on my belly, and started to get even more information (seriously ... never will I desire global telepathy than when I am in labor and people are asking me questions. Although, then the curse words in  my head would ring loud and clear so maybe it is good that it doesn't exist?). She said that my midwife had been called. Then a resident came in to the room, introduced herself, and said she was going to check me.

I am always so nervous when they check me in triage because what if all of those intense contractions were for one measly centimeter of dilation?

"I think your fully dilated."

Oh, hallelujah!

Well, that hallelujah was downgraded to a thank goodness when the nurse checked the resident's checking (not very gently I might add ... ) and declared me at 9 cm.

With that very green light of dilation, they promptly threw a sheet over my bottom half and moved me via bed to the delivery room. I had Chris lay the bed down flat. I craved laboring on the bed just like I did with Ryan. I just laid there silent and with my eyes closed while everyone was bustling around getting the room set up. Pretty soon after I was on the delivery bed, I felt a lot of liquid. 

"Ummm I think I peed or my water just broke." 

The nurses lifted the sheet and saw that it was nice and clear. I could feel that the baby was lower. I mentally could not wait to push, but I didn't actually have the urge to push yet. My nurse asked me what I would like to do in terms of pain management, and I somehow politely told her that I would be okay without any. Chris whispered that we had done the Bradley method with our first, and we were doing it again. For some reason, I am always really sensitive about being polite when I'm in labor and apologize about everything from the nurses changing the pads on the bed after my water breaks to not talking with them. I never get to ask them if they mind those things, but I now that I look back, I assume that they don't!

A bit later, I felt some pressure and pushed a little just because and out came quite a gush. My water hadn't broken completely the first time. Patty, the midwife I had seen the most throughout my pregnancy and who conveniently was on call, wasn't at the hospital yet. I remember being bummed that she wasn't there because I had some delusion that once she arrived, I would have the urge to push. The attending OB came in to introduce herself since I was so far along. I had told them that I was okay with her delivering the baby when Patty walked in! Sadly, the urge to push did not arrive.

She checked me and told me that I was at a nine, but that the baby was a bit posterior otherwise known as sunny side up. Immediately, I thought of Grace's pushing marathon with Theo. Oh boy. If I took around three hours to push Ryan out, how in the world was I going to push a sunny side up baby out even if he or she was my second? Patty asked me to keep relaxing through contractions in the hope that I would dilate and the baby would turn, which was not the synchronized midwife arrival and urge to push commencing I had envisioned. I begged Chris to talk to me about Ryan and meeting our new baby so I could get through the contractions.

After a few contractions, Patty checked me again. The baby was still in the same position, and she said there was even more of a lip of my cervix (after delivery, she told me that it seemed that my cervix had actually dilated back to seven or eight centimeters, but she didn't want to discourage me with the fact that I had regressed that much. Smart). She had me switch positions. I whimpered that I just wanted to be able to push. They raised the back of the bed up and I squatted in front of it and leaned on it with my arms hanging over it.

A couple of contractions later, I said that I felt like I had to push. I pushed and Patty tried to push the lip of my cervix over the baby's head. It didn't work so Patty had me lean over the back of the bed again and said that if I was able to sit through a few more contractions, the baby would arrive sooner than if I kept pushing with the baby in the wrong position and possibly cause my cervix to swell. I tried to argue with them, but nope, I had to wait. I looked miserable, whimpered some more and then leaned back over the bed. Those contractions were so horrible because I knew I was so close to being able to push, and I did not want to sit through any more. Amid all of my whimpers and doubts, Chris kept encouraging me through each of them. I just kept rolling my rosary through my fingers and praying and praying.

Finally, finally, we had good news when Patty checked me. I was 10 cm, there was no lip, and the baby was in a better position. I could push! Patty asked me if I had something else that I wanted to wear instead of my shirt that had never made it off because she likes to put the baby right on the mother's chest after birth. I breathlessly started to tell her that was fine, I just never made it changing! Chris brought me the black sports bra that I wore when I had Ryan (surprise, surprise). Then Patty asked me if it would be okay if the resident caught the baby. I said yes although I will admit that I was a bit concerned about tearing for a hot second since she had mentioned that it was her very first week, but honestly I just wanted to push.

I first tried to push the way that the Bradley method talks about - a modified squatting position on the bed. My arms were under my knees with my elbows up and my chin was at my chest. When a contraction started, I took three full and deep breaths and then held my breath on the last one and pushed with all of my might. I was determined to be a good pusher this time. It was such a relief to push because there was no pain; it was just a whole lot of effort and exhausting. Once after a contraction, I told Chris that he could check the score of the Notre Dame game ... he didn't though! This was the first Notre Dame game that he missed watching in nine years. Blood is thicker than football fandom. They could see the head slowly coming, but the baby's heart rate was a little slower than before so they started giving me oxygen in between pushes.

After a few pushes that way, Patty had me start pushing on my side. I pressed my face against Chris' stomach, held (okay, squeezed to death) onto his arm, and pushed with all of my might. The baby moved down. I did a couple more pushes on my left side, and then Patty was concerned about the baby's heart rate so she turned me onto my right side in case the baby was on the umbilical cord. She then told me that she had gone ahead and paged the doctor in practice because the heart rate was a bit lower than she was comfortable with. If she wanted to scare me a bit, she did. I pushed so hard with the next contraction until I felt the ring of fire as the baby's head crowned. I didn't even care how much it burned because I just wanted the baby to be born healthy and as soon as possible. They had me stop pushing so I didn't tear. At the next contraction, I buried my face against Chris, clutched my rosary and pushed and pushed until the shoulders came out, and I felt that life giving slip - life for our new baby and life for us as parents of two.

Patty immediately put that sweet life on my belly (the baby couldn't go any farther because the umbilical cord was a short one). While she was putting the baby on my belly, I kept asking, "Chris! What is it?! What is it?!" He laughed and said he thought it was a boy although he wasn't completely sure. 

Well, it was a boy. A second son.

I looked down at him. Just like on our wedding day and just like when we met our firstborn, I wasn't overcome with tears. I felt completely present, completely overcome with love and as completely with God as I imagine I can feel on this earth; the privilege and blessing to give birth to the greatest manifestation of my love with Chris is the holiest experience I have yet to encounter.

As I held our son, our Conor Daniel Harrington, I noticed that his hands were clasped as though he was praying. 

Two minutes old and praying hands already

I have been praying for him for so long, and I am so honored and happy that I get to for the rest of my life.

Conor's Birth Story, Part I

On Friday night around 10, I started to hit my normal wall that can't even be blown down by a second wind and started to fall asleep on the couch while cross-stitching. Wow, if you read that sentence again, you so cannot guess that I am twenty-four. In the midst of the nodding head and accidentally poked fingertips, I noticed that I was having slight cramps in my lower back every ten minutes or so. Finally after my fingers had had enough, I got up and told Chris that I was retiring for the night. I mentioned the cramps and that I thought they were Braxton-Hicks since they were so light.

We had been hoping that I stay pregnant until the following weekend for various reasons, and it seemed like I was going to. I felt as perfect as you can while pregnant! With Ryan, you could tell that his entrance into the world was coming. Swollen ankles, retaining water, Braxton-Hicks, crazy, hormonal pregnant woman not fitting into any clothes, etc. But at 39 weeks, 6 days with this one, I was not swollen one bit, had barely any practice contractions as I like to call them, my hormones were pretty well behaved (maybe Chris would have a different opinion on this ... ) and I still had clothes to wear as long as I stayed on top of the laundry. At my appointment on Wednesday, I was 3.5 cm dilated and 50% effaced, but after reading many extra-expert forums of expectant mothers claiming they were 75% effaced for weeks, I decided that the measurements meant nothing. I called my dad on Friday night, and I boasted that I wasn't going to go into labor soon.

The next morning, Ryan woke me up at 5:40 as usual. He had a PB & J for breakfast and so did I. We settled onto the futon and began reading like we do pretty much every morning. In the midst of Ryan's animal imitations, I noticed that I was having cramps. When they kept coming, I started casually glancing at the time on my phone whenever they started, and they were about seven minutes apart. I didn't really think much of them.

At 7:30, I went to wake Chris up, which happens every day. But on this particular day, he woke up startled and played the stereotypical father in the movies. "Is it time?!" came from him as he threw the blankets to the side before I even mentioned anything at all about the cramps. I wasn't even planning on saying anything at the time. His reaction made me stop and think. Is it time? Chris told me to rest and start timing them. So I got back into bed with my cross stitch and opened up the contraction timing app that was still on my phone from Ryan's labor. Cross stitch and an iPhone app: a geriatric and Millenial combination. The contractions were about forty-five seconds long and four to six minutes apart, were getting stronger and they weren't stopping. We were in the baby delivering business, people.

Early labor with my early riser

Since we had been hoping for a late delivery, we had planned to not do any baby stuff until the very end, thinking that we could trick my body into knowing when I was ready for the baby to come. Out of bed, I jumped. In between timing contractions, I threw a bag together for Ryan and then started packing one for myself and the coming babe. I went up to the attic to bring down the newborn clothes so I could wash a few onesies and the polar bear sleeper that Ryan came home in. Next, I cut Chris' hair because who knew when I would do that again post baby. Once the onesies were in the washer,  the bags were packed, and Chris' hair was cut, I started to bake a pumpkin pie.

I like to stay active during early labor to keep my mind off of the contractions, and I'm really sentimental about repeating things. For example, when I guessed Chris was going to propose to me, I purposefully wore the same shirt that he had first kissed me in. When I went to the Grotto at Lourdes, I wore the scarf that was around my neck when we got engaged at the Grotto on campus which is a replica of the one at Lourdes. Etc., etc., I'm a weirdo. Anyway, a few weeks ago when I was grocery shopping, I picked up pumpkin and evaporated milk not just because it is fall, but also because I wanted to have the ingredients to bake a pumpkin pie on hand for when I was in early labor just like I did before Ryan was born. Washed clothes for the baby? Not a priority. Pumpkin pie ingredients? Priority.

I told Ryan that I was going to bake a pumpkin pie. He shouted, "Baking! Watch!" and then ran off. He returned with his bath toys, lined them up along the sink and proclaimed, "Watching!"

Then he moved them so they could get a better view.

After the pie had been pushed into the oven, I went to go take a shower. The contractions were definitely picking up in intensity, but not in frequency. I was frustrated because now that I was in labor, I just wanted it to be fast and furious. I wanted to meet the baby that afternoon.

While in the shower, I didn't want to stop timing the contractions because I was so hoping that they would get close enough to really mean something. We weren't going to leave for the hospital until they were three minutes apart or so because I didn't want to labor in the hospital long. I like laboring at home. Every time a contraction would start, I would have to open the shower door, dry off my hands, open my phone, and then begin the time. By the time all of that was finished, the contraction would be really strong, but I wasn't in a good mindset to relax through it. This whole process did not help me relax at all, and I kind of hated it so I just got out of the shower.

I started to curl my hair since I hadn't washed it. I was able to relax through the contractions more since I didn't have a multi-step process to undergo in order to start the timer. This is another thing that I seem to like to do while in labor. With Ryan, I painted my toenails, blew dry my hair and did my makeup. It never makes any sense (but, then again, when do I ever make sense?) because I always plan to get in the tub at the hospital, plus labor isn't exactly a walk in the park so whatever amount I primp, it is all going to be long gone by the time the baby arrives. Nevertheless, it keeps my mind off of the coming contraction so I do it.

A crooked picture frame and a penguin bath toy keeping me company. And here is more proof that I am a sentimental weirdo ... that is the same shirt I wore to the hospital while in labor with Ryan.

Chris' job that morning was to spend time with Ryan so I could relax as much as possible. He would check on me periodically to see how things were going. I could hear the cheers coming from upstairs where they were watching the Manchester United match, which is always a good sign. By 11:40, the pie was cooling, the hair was curled and I settled down on our bedroom floor to labor. I laid down on my left side in the runner's position from the Bradley method book that really helped me reach 7 cm by the time we got to the hospital with Ryan. Chris and I have never taken a Bradley course; we just read the book with Ryan and then reread three chapters during my last week of pregnancy. It is definitely a dated book and Dr. Bradley thinks very highly of his own method and isn't afraid to show it, but his husband-coached method really works for us.

The game was over so Ryan started to come looking for me. Chris told him that Mama needed to rest so Ryan put his hands on my cheeks, "Mama." Then he laid down next to me on the floor and fell asleep. Naptime the whole week prior had been such a battle with lots of crying and protesting and screaming. But somehow his little toddler heart knew what his mama needed right at that moment. I know that that moment, that picture of his innocent and caring face with his brown eyes somehow containing compassion beyond his age slowly closing under his curly head of hair will always be with me.

I ate a roast beef and cheese sandwich made by Chris (thanks, Laura and Luke!) and stayed on the floor for his whole nap. My rosary that my friend Aubry brought me home from the Holy Land was clutched in my hand, and I rolled it around in my fingers in between contractions (yep, you guessed it ... I used the same rosary for Ryan). My contractions were still concentrated in my lower back (Glory, back labor!). I started offering up each contraction for various intentions on my mind. Praying and offering up the pain helped an immense amount.

By the time Ryan woke up around two, the peak of the contractions were really intense and much more painful than before, but the spacing of the contractions were still only about four minutes apart. I was so discouraged because I thought we would have met the baby by now. Chris took Ryan to play in the living room, and I followed because staying in our room just didn't seem to be working. However, soon after camping out in the living room I realized that I could no longer be around sound during my contractions. Back to our room, I went. The contractions were no longer of the level that I could handle on my own. I needed Chris to be there.  I texted Alexandra who was graciously taking Ryan while we were at the hospital and told Chris that Ryan had to go now. 

Chris grabbed Ryan's bag and asked if he needed to pick anything up for me to eat. I told him that I didn't want to eat anything. Chris was concerned that I wouldn't have enough strength throughout the rest of labor and to push the baby out because I took so long with Ryan so he kept insisting that I eat something. I told him I would have a peanut butter and jelly sandwich if I had to eat something.

I told Ryan that he was going to play with Peter, Mary Frances and James like I had told him for the past few weeks would happen when I went to the hospital. He kept saying mama and making me cry. Finally, he gave me a kiss and Chris carried him off. I heard the garage door open and close.

And then it started.